I was laying in bed last night thinking how crazy it is that it’s going to be Two Thousand Thirteen! It occurred to me how far we’ve come and yet how far we have to go. In terms of innovation, technology, healthcare, and transportation (among others) we’ve really had so many advances. Yet, when it comes to living a life filled with purpose, love, compassion, and kindness it seems much of the world is still struggling. It seems many of us are still looking to fill that hole in our hearts.
What’s beautiful about change and especially personal change is that we don’t have to wait. We can literally start at any given moment. So I thought I’d make us a quick checklist we can use to start off our New Year right. Here’s a quick review of this checklist and why you should make this a priority for you today. What’s beautiful is that even if you’re not reading this on December 31, 2012 you can still use this checklist. In fact, you can use this any day of the year to start you off right. After all, change starts within and it starts NOW (whenever “NOW” is for you!).
Forgive Yourself And Others
Forgiveness is a topic I talk about often and one that I think many people want to do but struggle with. Perhaps it has something to do with the meaning we apply to it. I used to think forgiveness meant you were telling the person(s) who harmed you that it was okay what they did. I’ve now adapted a new meaning which I apply to forgiveness and it serves me much better. For me, forgiveness allows me to go on with my life with more love (for myself and others) and less hate, anger, sadness, resentment, and fear. Forgiveness doesn’t mean I’m approving in anyway of what another did. It’s a release for me. Forgiveness is a gift I give myself and it actually is something that never needs to be spoken to the other person. Ultimately I describe it this way.
Forgiveness releases me from the suffering caused by others and allows me to be the fullest expression of my Authentic Nature.
We must also forgive ourselves. We all make mistakes, “Hey we’re fallible!”, and perhaps there was something you’ve done in 2012 that you might regret. Forgive yourself and go into 2013 without that holding you back!
Release The Guilt
Guilt goes hand in hand with forgiveness. If we haven’t forgiven ourselves for the hurt we may have caused others (or even ourselves) we carry guilt. Guilt is a product of our Ego and literally serves no purpose in supporting our Authentic Nature. Guilt is a form of self-imposed punishment that allows us to beat ourselves up. In the process we’re actually shaming ourselves and the end result is we get very small.
Don’t let guilt keep you small anymore in 2013. Accept that it’s your Inherent Nature to be fallible and that you get to make mistakes (no matter how bad). The best way to honor the ones you’ve hurt is to BE the fullest expression of your Authentic Nature (Your true self). Guilt will not let you do that and will keep you locked up in that small prison of Ego. Forgive yourself, let guilt know it’s not serving you anymore, and release.
Accept Yourself Today!
New Year’s Resolutions are a fine thing to have (mostly) but you don’t need to wait to accept yourself. How many times have we said the following?
If I were only 10 lbs. lighter…
If I only had that job…
If only my teeth were straighter or whiter…
If only I was doing…
Again, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight, get a new job, or even straighten your teeth. The point is you don’t need to wait for these things to happen (the resolutions) before you accept yourself. The day you were born it didn’t matter what you weighed, what tasks you were capable of doing, and you didn’t even have any teeth! With all these things considered you were still born Beautiful, Attractive, Enough, Lovable, Precious, Valuable, Worthy, and Intelligent. You didn’t need anything to validate these qualities. These are your Inherent Qualities and yours to own. Stop lying to yourself today and enter the New Year accepting your Inherent Qualities.
I want to appreciate you for reading this blog. This site is relatively new and I greatly appreciate the support you’ve shown me. When I hear from you that what I’ve written resonates it reminds me that I’m on the right path.
I have some big ideas for 2013 including adding more tools that will support you in transforming your own life. I created and made available the “Daily Truth Tab” Worksheet that makes it easy for you to remind yourself every day what’s true about you!
I’m also considering adding some personal coaching sessions so that I can support you on an individual basis. We all have healing that needs to take place and deep down we all want to feel “whole”. I can support you through that healing process as well as give you specific tools that will allow you to align with your Inherent Qualities.
“We see the world not as they are but as we are.”
Finally, I hope you’ll take this opportunity to subscribe to the site. You can do so on the upper right corner of the home page and takes just one minute. You’ll be signed up for my automatic posts that get sent right to your inbox. In addition, you’ll receive all the new tools I discussed earlier for free as well as any other content sent directly to your email.
I’m wishing you all a safe, happy, and healthy New Year!
With Love, Gratitude, and Appreciation,