I want you to imagine something for a few moments. Picture yourself holding a small infant in your arms. The baby could be 8 weeks old and is snuggling in your arms and asleep. Notice yourself rocking softly side to side so as to not stir the baby. Can you smell that sweet baby scent and feel his or her warm body against yours?
As you look at this baby what qualities come to mind? For many of us we’d have a hard time not appreciating that this baby is beautiful, precious, whole, valuable, worthy, lovable, strong, vulnerable, creative, loving, and tender. If we really put our thinking caps on we might even argue that the baby is intelligent, visionary, magnificent, honest, and powerful too.
Keeping in mind all of the qualities we just observed about this baby I want you to now replace that baby’s head with yours. That’s right, the baby your holding is now you. Can you see all those same qualities we just observed in the baby version of you?
Well then you must have simply forgotten. The truth is we are all born with Inherent Qualities. Yet if we’re born with these qualities it must stand to reason that they are who we are. In other words, they are things that just can’t be taken away. If you’re a religious person it might be helpful to acknowledge that if God created us than he must also be in us. You could use the same reasoning and easily see that by definition part of our creation is of our creator. Therefore, those divine qualities in us can’t just be taken away because we don’t think they’re there.
So why then do we buy in to feeling ugly, stupid, not good enough, not lovable, not valuable/worthy, not precious, not intelligent, and so on?
How do we go from being this little baby full of Inherent Qualities to the adults we are today who can’t see any of them? Well, we’ve been lied to over the years. Through shame, physical abuse, sexual abuse, spiritual and emotional abuse, and cultural norms we’ve been conditioned to live a life led by False Beliefs.
When we learn from a young age (somewhere between 6 and 10) that we’re not lovable anymore or not smart or not beautiful that sticks with us. We heard it so many times from our elders and perhaps even our peers that we came to believe it was true. In fact, in order to protect ourselves we would even announce our False Beliefs before anyone else could get a chance.
How many times have you made a mistake and said out loud, “I’m such an idiot!”? How about a time when you looked in the mirror and proclaimed, “I’m so ugly”.? Maybe you’ve had a dream of doing a job or activity only to be held back by your thought that you weren’t good enough?
These are common thoughts and they’re what we call False Beliefs. They’re things that we believe about ourselves, thanks to influential people in our early childhood, and their false. Their false because we know what we were like when we were born and it’s certainly not this!
So, if we can begin to see that just maybe we are precious. Maybe we are intelligent and beautiful. Perhaps we are visionary, creative, thoughtful, and powerful. Wouldn’t this make a difference in your life? Can you imagine for a moment what your life was like if this is how you saw the world?
I’m going to invite you to close your eyes for a moment (okay, do it after you read the instructions silly!). Take a mental inventory of your life right now. Are you in the relationships you want to be in? Are you living a life with meaning and purpose? Are you giving of yourself? Are you making all your dreams come true? Do you feel your the BEST expression of yourself?
Now what would life look like if you had all the relationships you wanted? What would it look like if you were in your dream job? What about giving to others both in time and money? Can you see a life filled with happiness, joy, creativity, passion, and fulfillment?
Now open your eyes.
In the first scenario which is likely where many of us are today we’re wearing our Glasses of False Belief. We’re judging ourselves and others, we’re gossiping, we’re comparing, we’re criticizing, we’re trying to control others, we’re perfectionists, we’re confused or lost about what our meaning in life is, we’re depressed, and the list goes on. These are all symptoms of wearing our Glasses of False Belief.
In the second scenario we can see we’ve now traded our old glasses in for the Glasses of Inherent Nature. We now accept others as they are, we forgive everyone including ourselves, we have compassion and empathy, we listen with a real desire to learn, we know we’re perfectly imperfect and so are others, we are committed, confident, and passionate about the meaning and purpose in our life. We feel fulfilled, self-aware, loving, and extremely compassionate for all others.
We’re not going to be able to tackle how to permanently remove our Glasses of False Belief in place of our Glasses of Inherent Nature in this post. However, the first step is just being aware of which glasses we do have on.
So I ask you. Which glasses do you primarily wear? Can you tell when you wake up in the morning? What do you think is stopping you from permanently keeping on your glasses of inherent nature?
I would love to hear your comments below!
With Gratitude and Appreciation,