Feb 262013
 

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Most of my life I spent victim to my thoughts and feelings. Afterall, what else could be out there to guide me in how to respond to life? Not to mention that the feelings I carry are so strong most of the time.

Being a relatively sensitive and emotional person it wasn’t hard for my responses to be right in alignment with those feelings. I found this particularly true in the following scenarios:

Someone cut me off while driving – HELLO PISSED OFF!

My kids won’t take a bath after asking them a million times – HELLO POWERLESSNESS!

My spouse isn’t in a place to give me the affection/attention I need – HELLO FRUSTRATION!

There’s turbulence on the plane – HELLO FEAR!

and the list goes on…

In each of those situations my response, and ultimately who I am, takes on those feelings. I would literally say that “I am angry”, “I am frustrated”, or “I am anxious”. My responses in each of these situations would then become a REFLECTION of who I thought I was. If I was angry I would respond that way, if I was frustrated I would respond that way, if I was powerless and helpless I would respond that way.

When did we allow ourselves to become victims to our own feelings?

Feelings are something we have, yet so many of us are confused and allow the feelings to have us. I am not, nor would I ever, suggest that you avoid or even downplay your feelings. Feelings are extremely important but all too often they become the decision maker for our responses in life.

I’m here to tell you that you can have your feelings AND respond differently. Well that’s something new for a lot of us!

You can feel the feeling of angry or the feeling of frustrated, sad, or even the feeling of fear and not respond with that feeling. How many times has responding as if you were those feelings gotten you in trouble? I’m just going to share a few outcomes that result from confusing who we are with how we feel and let me know if any of them resonate with you.

Blowout fights with your partner (physical or emotional)
Blowout fights with your children (physical or emotional)
Road Rage
Suicide
Crime
Alcoholism
Drugs
Sex outside of committed and loving relationships
Keeping small so others don’t notice you
Not living your dreams
 

We have been conditioned to respond based on our feelings for many years. Yet, this is something we have control over.

You are responseABLE!

In the heat of the moment it may not feel that way but you are always at choice. At choice to respond to something other than your feelings. You can allow yourself to have your feelings and respond differently. It takes a tremendous amout of practice but I’m here to tell you that life doesn’t have to be this way.

The first step is awareness and the awareness that you’re even having a feeling. The next time you feel a charge come on take a breath and notice where the feeling is in your body. Is it in your throat? your chest? your stomach or back? Give your body some room and space for that feeling to live.

Note: I will show you how to resolve those feelings but for now we just don’t want to respond with the feelings. We want to know how to put out the fire and then we’ll go back and see what caused it later.

Remind yourself that you are safe, lovable, enough, important, strong, and beautiful. Accepting these qualities about you will always contradict your feelings. They will allow your “I am” to change from “I am angry” to “I am important and I feel angry” and your “I am alone” to “I am connected and I feel lonely”. We need to get a grip on where our starting place is. Our starting place is not our feelings. Our starting place is our Authentic Nature.

A cat that is black or red or orange or white is still a cat, right? So when you have feelings you’re still the same loveable, enough, good, intelligent, important, precious person, right? Well then why don’t we act like that? We need to be like that cat and no matter what color we are in a given moment always respond with our own “catness”.

Note: I have no idea why I just used a cat analogy. I’m actually a dog person but you get the idea…

Okay, so let me break this down into doable steps that you can use the next time you’re feeling a charge come up. Take your time with these steps. YOU WILL GET THIS WRONG! The point is, it takes a ton of practice but as you get more used to doing this it will become your new norm. Your old conditioned response will now be replaced. You will feel amazing and your actions will be a result of not only how great you feel but also of who you really are. I’m telling you, this is life changing.

1. Pause – take 3 nice deep breaths

2. Notice where in your body this feeling lives (head, neck, chest, stomach, etc.)

3. Give your body some space and room to contain this feeling

4. Remind yourself that you are having a feeling but that you are not that feeling

5. Remind yourself that you are Whole, Lovable, Good Enough, Intelligent, Important, Loved…

Now here’s the really hard part…

Respond based and in aligment with the qualities you told yourself you were in step 5 ALL WHILE taking that feeling with you. Imagine that feeling as a football or purse or whatever that you’re carrying under your arm. You’re going to go back into this situation and respond as the Whole, Lovable, Good Enough, Intelligent, Important, and Loving person you are all while holding that ball/purse of anger, frustration, sadness, fear under your arm.

Your true self is in the qualities (and many others) that I shared not in your feelings. To respond based on your feelings alone by definition is to abandon yourself. Don’t abandon yourself!

Again, this exercise will take time but guess what? You’re going to get a lot of practice! I want to hear how this is working for you and what other tips you have for reconnecting to your Authentic Self.

With Love and Gratitude,

Josh_Sig

 

 

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Feb 252013
 
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To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring,
                  it means I can’t do it for someone else.
 
To let go is not to cut myself off,
                  it is the realization that I can’t control another.
 
To let go is not to enable,
                  but to allow learning from natural consequences.
 
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
                  which means the outcome is not in my hands.
 
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
                  I can only change myself.
 
To let go is not to care for,
                  but to care about.
 
To let go is not to fix,
                  but to be supportive.
 
To let go is not to judge,
                  but to allow myself and others to be human beings.
 
To let go is not to be in the middle of arranging all the outcomes,
                  but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.
 
To let go is not to be protective,
                  it is to permit another to face reality.
 
To let go is not to deny,
                  but to accept.
 
To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
                  but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.
 
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
                  but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.
 
To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
                  but to try to become what I dream I can be.
 
To let go is not to regret the past,
                  but to live in the present.
 
To let go is to fear less,
                  and live more.
 
– Anonymous
 

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Feb 212013
 

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I’m still relatively new on my journey to self-awareness and I might add that this journey will never really end. However, along the way I’ve learned what love means for me and what it doesn’t mean. I’ve learned to become aware of the times I’m searching for it and also the times when it’s knocking but I’m not hearing it.

Giving and receiving love comes in many forms and of course different people need love displayed to them differently. However, when you break it down there seems to be 5 ways in which we give and receive love. David Richo coined this as “The 5 A’s”. He talks about giving and receiving love in the form of:

Attention

Acceptance

Allowance

Affection

Appreciation

Before coming to accept Mr. Richo’s theory on the 5 A’s I really only saw Affection as a method for how I received love. If I wasn’t getting an appropriate amount of affection from you and perhaps attention too I didn’t feel loved. However, looking back on my life now and even to this day, I receive love all the time and it comes in many forms.

Since I also believe that attention is one way to receive love that means that when I’m talking to someone else (male or female) if they’re giving me attention I can use that time to really let that sink in to my heart. They don’t have to be telling me they love me. Just the simple act of giving me some kind attention is a loving gesture even if they’re not aware that’s what they’re doing.

I’ve struggled for most of my life with not feeling accepted. I know many of you have as well and that can be a hard hurdle to overcome. For me, I needed a big fat sign spelling out that you accepted me before I really believed it. However, acceptance comes in many forms and sometimes it’s not so obvious. Have you ever screwed up and still had that friend or partner stick around? The dreams we share with our close friends and family are all forms of acceptance. When others let us know that it’s okay to be us, that is love.

Growing up, “allowance” always meant getting some money every week for doing chores. I struggled with this one initially but I’ve learned that allowance is more like support. Others support and encourage who we truly are by giving us allowance. They’re essentially giving us permission to be our true self. Sometimes it means that they do something they’d maybe not love to do but because they know it’s important to us that’s allowance. On Wednesday evenings I’m away from the house (after my normal work day) for 5 hours. I’m on the Teaching Team at the Breakthrough Center in Carmel, CA. There’s no way I could do this if my wife wasn’t allowing of me by caring for our children so I could do this. That is allowance and that is love. I have to acknowledge that my wife loves me and actively loves me every single Wednesday evening.

Affection has traditionally been a physical thing for me. I would consider someone rubbing my arm, leg, head, etc. as affection. Yet affection doesn’t have to be physical. A man sharing an intimate (non-sexual) conversation with me where he’s truly listening and empathizing with me is affection. This isn’t as obvious as receiving attention or even acceptance but receiving affection from another (sexual or non-sexual) is a loving gesture and one that needs to be acknowledged. Sex and sexual affection can have all kinds of weird stigma around it depending on your background and the situation but when we receive healthy affection it can be such a sweet, tender, and loving gift.

How many times do you hear, “You’re an idiot”, “You screwed up again”, “Why can’t you get that right?”, or “You look like crap”? We’re constantly reminded about what’s wrong with us. What’s worse is that the times when we do receive an appreciation we can’t even accept it. Someone compliments our appearance and we play it down by saying it’s the clothes. Someone says how smart we are and we make a joke about us being stupid. What would it be like if someone told you how creative you were and you actually let that sink in? What would it be like if someone told you how smart you were and you let that sink in? The thought might be uncomfortable because we’re actually used to hearing what’s not true (ie; you’re less than) so often. Appreciation is love and it’s something that can touch you right at the core. Look for subtle appreciations such as a “thank you” from a stranger you did a kind deed for.

It’s amazing how much love is actually out there in the world. Every single day we’re receiving (and giving) these “5 A’s”. We’re getting them from our partners, friends, family members, co-workers, and even strangers. Getting a wrapped present is awesome, having sexual intimacy with a mate is awesome, hearing “I love you” is awesome but how many other (not so obvious) ways are we being told “I love you” and not even hearing it?

When do you feel loved the most? Do you think there are times when someone was “loving” you and you didn’t even know it? I would love to hear your thoughts and comments below!

With Gratitude and Appreciation,

Josh_Sig

 

 

 

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Feb 192013
 

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Most of my life I went throughout my day like most people. I woke up thinking about what I had to get done for the day, often times dreading the feeling. I would hurry through the morning getting myself and the kids ready. Once I was at work I was half in thought of the other one million, personal things I hadn’t accomplished and half in thought about how much work I had to do. Once I was home I was busy helping my wife get the kids ready for bed only to start it all over again.

Throughout my day I’d be bouncing back and forth from happy moments in laughter to dull spaced-out (daydreaming) states, back to feeling angry, frustrated, and upset. I didn’t know where I was at any given moment – my mission was to respond to what was in front of me. Put out the fires!

Most days were spent carrying around the fire hose – looking left – looking right – ready to pull the trigger and put out the next fire.

There are still times in my life where I experience conditional responses but I’m much more thoughtful about life now and much more aware of my thoughts and feelings. With good boundaries in place, life doesn’t have to be about running from this thing to that thing and being at the mercy of my feelings at any given moment. While our journey to self-awareness is a long one it doesn’t mean there aren’t things we can practice on any given day.

Here are 5 things (from my experience) I think you can do to more appreciate your Authentic Self and ensure today is an awesome one!

1. Make your first thoughts about your day positive and with intention. No more, “Oh crap, it’s Monday!”, coming out of your mouth first thing. Instead, with your eyes still closed (in bed) take in several slow and deep breaths through your nose. Give some attention to each of your body parts starting with your head as your breath travels down your body.

Allow a sense of gratitude to enter your awareness noticing a few things your thankful for on this day. You could be thankful for the warmth of your blankets over you or even just for having another day to experience and appreciate life. When you think of these things you’re thankful for allow yourself to really feel that feeling wash over you. Take just a few seconds but really allow yourself to experience this exercise.

Before you open your eyes to start your day consider how you can serve others. You are a compassionate, intelligent, helpful, and creative being. What better way to express your true nature than to give to others. Invite the Universe/God to send you people throughout the day that you can serve. There are many ways you can help neighbors, family members, strangers, the homeless, or a co-worker. You don’t even have to spend money to do so. Just holding a place for someone (an emotional place) to experience their feelings or thinking well of them is a gift in itself. In bed, allow yourself to invite those in need of gifts to come to you.

2. Forgive yourself from pain caused by others and yourself! You’ve probably heard the saying, “we can’t control what others do but we can control how we respond to them.” Throughout any given day it’s easy for us to become upset by the actions of others. It could be your boss who just doesn’t appreciate you or your spouse who’s taking out the days events or your child who just won’t listen. Often times it’s not just other people who cause us pain though. We get caught up in the self-lies we tell ourselves. Whether we’re telling ourselves we’re ugly, stupid, not good enough or any number of self-depricating lies.

It’s easy to see how you could respond in anger or sadness over a spouse or someone else acting inappropriate. However, the self-depricating lies we tell ourselves, in my opinion, are even worse. We don’t feel that same emotional tug at our heart-strings when we abuse ourselves but the pain is much deeper and lasts much longer. The obstacles we face in life can almost always be traced back to our core beliefs we have about ourselves.

Today, decide to forgive others and yourself from the pain you endure. Forgiveness, for me, is not about allowing others to hurt us nor is it about pretending it didn’t happen. Forgiveness allows ourselves to free up that negative emotional energy we have stored in our bodies. It allows us to exchange the feelings of fear, hate, anger, sadness, and disappointment with the state of being in love, joy, equanimity, commitment, creativity, and allowance. Choose not to remain small anymore and allow the fullness of your Authentic Self to be seen today!

3. Make a choice not to judge another today. This is one of the hardest things to change and it’s still a challenge for me. It’s so easy to go throughout our day judging others whether we know them or not. Let me first explain what I mean by “judging others”. I mean this in the context of thinking of another as “better than” or “less than”. We do this to ourselves too and this is yet another thing that keeps us small.

Our Ego (Edging God Out) is clearly at work here since in reality we are all connected. Judging others separates ourselves from them and leads us to believe that we’re somehow not all the same (at the core). “Less than” and “more than” thoughts are all lies since inherently we’re all ENOUGH. There is no “more than” or “less than” when we’re enough. Stop judging yourself and others and watch how your world changes.

4. Stop wanting and start allowing what you desire. It seems subtle at first but it’s actually a fine distinction between “wanting” and “allowing”. I remember many years ago wanting a stereo system for our TV. I wanted it really badly and at the time nothing was going to get in my way. I wound up bringing the stereo system home only for my wife to remind me we had no financial business buying it. I knew we didn’t have the money but I bought it anyway. The fact that I wanted it didn’t take anything else into consideration. The only thing on my mind was the outcome of getting the system.

Had I allowed myself to get the stereo system it would have looked a lot different. I would have had the same desire for it but it wasn’t something that was forced. I would have ensured we were financially sound, I would have looked at other options, I would have been flexible, my focus would have been on other (more important) things in my life and not just on buying this system.

As you can probably see “wanting” things is a very rigid and small state of being. You either get what you want or you don’t. When we want things it can easily consume our focus and we don’t care so much about how we get it only that we get it. When we allow things to happen there is much more of a flow to it. We’re getting out of our own way, remaining flexible, and open to all outcomes. Today, choose to allow that which you desire and watch how effortlessly it manifests in your life. Allow yourself to have a good day!

5. Take an emotional vacation from yourself. I don’t know about you but there is always noise in my head. The minute I wake up until I fall asleep all kinds of thoughts are running rampant in that brain of mine. I can’t even have a break in the shower! Washing my hair and I’m thinking about a conversation I had yesterday, what things I need to do later today, or how I’m feeling about a particular situation.

All this thinking is tiring at best and stressful at worst. We’re great at giving our bodies a rest throughout the day or week but not so much when it comes to our minds. Meditation can be an intimidating thing for many of us. However, meditation doesn’t have to look like what you see in the traditional media. You don’t have to sit cross-legged, you don’t need your palms facing up, nor do you need to chant “Ommmmmmm”. Meditation is simply giving your mind a vacation. You can meditate while walking down the street, sitting in a parked car (please don’t do this while driving! LOL), or in your shower. You can benefit from just 3 minutes of meditation so don’t get caught up in having to sit in a quiet room for two hours.

Today, calm your mind, take a vacation and allow your thoughts to flow through you without giving them any attention. Become the observer of your own thoughts and you will find yourself in meditation. What a difference even 3 minutes will make for you!

These 5 things or any variation of them will make a huge difference in your day. Not all of them are easy to put into practice but the more you do these things the easier they’ll become a part of how you operate. The only reason you walk around judging others, not forgiving, wanting and not allowing, is because you were taught to do that.

We’re simply training ourselves to respond to life differently. Again, (as a wise person once said) “it’s about progress not perfection.” Just becoming aware of when you’re doing or not doing these things will bring you huge benefit. Self-Esteem is a choice, Happiness is a choice, your own personal success is a choice. I’m confident that putting these 5 steps into your day will bring you that much closer to choosing what’s right for you. At the end of the day I think you’re going to fall asleep happy, feeling full of worth, and ready to wake up and do it all over again!

These are just 5 things you can do to change your day. What other things do you do throughout your day to ensure it’s the best? I’d love to hear your comments so please leave them below or if you’re reading this in email click here!

With Gratitude and Appreciation,

Josh_Sig

 

 

 

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Feb 062013
 

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There’s a point in everyone’s life where the messages we receive finally penetrate us at the core. Once those messages penetrate us in a consistent enough way we begin to accept them as the truth. For most of us this starts at a very young age and the messages can be heard loud and clear.

You’re stupid

You’re ugly

You’re fat

You’re too skinny

You’re a loser

Given enough time these messages all translate internally to not being good enough, worthy, or lovable. What can be worse than feeling “less than” yet so many of us spend life convinced of this. Not only do we think this way about ourselves but after permanently putting on our glasses of false belief we begin seeing the world this way. We can’t say no to others, we become “people pleasers”, we “put others first”, we become judgmental, critical, can’t face rejection, feel lost, alone, and walk the earth as though there’s a big hole to fill. I know because this was me and I know many of you face this right now.

To make matters worse, we’re told that in order to be different than who we now think we are (ie; not good enough) we have to perform. Getting the job title, buying the Audi, getting the house, juggling a million things, getting the degree, and the list goes on and on. No wonder we’re so tired! First we find out we’re “less than” and that we’re not whole and then we’re told we need to keep doing things to change that? Of course, as we all know no matter how much we do that false belief never goes away.

The road back to self is a long one but once you get on that road you make up ground quickly. It will feel uncomfortable at first but after awhile you’ll recall that this is how life is supposed to be. You’ll remember that your self-worth isn’t based on your job or on how many people you please in the name of beating yourself up, or on how much money you make, or on your degree, or on your ability to multi-task.

You are a Human Being not a Human Doing

If at some point we receive messages of false belief and then begin to self identify with them than it stands to reason we need to start hearing new messages. We need to hear things that counter those false beliefs and remind us of our truth. The truth about us lives in our inherent nature. That’s how we were born and those qualities while forgotten can never be taken away.

Just like the sun is always out but sometimes hidden by the clouds so to is our Inherent Nature. It’s always there and sometimes our glasses of false belief cloud over the truth. Ultimately this means we’re not broken. No, there is nothing to fix.

You are not broken

You can’t be broken because in addition to being intelligent, thoughtful, caring, lovable, beautiful, visionary, strong, and creative you’re also whole. You’ve only forgotten that these inherent qualities (in addition to many others) are actually yours. Once we begin to remember that this is who we are we can then express that essence. Expressing your inherent nature is the being in the human. Your “doings” simply become an expression of your being (ie; inherent nature) instead of a reflection of your false beliefs.

What would your life be like if you truly believed you were powerful, intelligent, beautiful, whole, enough, lovable, magnificent, and precious? What would it look like? Do you think all of your dreams would begin to come true? I know they would.

So how do we get ourselves back there? How do we exchange our glasses of false belief for our glasses of inherent nature? Well, it takes time and a lot of work but there’s something you can start doing today. You can start reminding yourself about what is true and what is your inherent nature.

Stop reminding yourself of those lies and false beliefs. When you begin to catch yourself saying,

“Oh, I can’t believe I did that! I’m such an idiot!” – Stop

“I look like crap in this outfit, I’m so ugly!” – Stop

“I’ll never be able to do what they’re doing…” – Stop

“I know I’m not good enough to be a part of that…” – Stop

Starting today you’re going to start appreciating yourself. No, this is not arrogance. Someone once asked me the difference between arrogance and self-confidence/worth. I told them the difference is that self-worth is something you appreciate on the inside and arrogance is something that’s all on the outside. Arrogance is a cover up for feeling “less than” and it’s a tool we use to convince others we’re not really who we think we are.

We’re not going to be appreciating our performance this time. We now see that performance and “doing things” gets us nowhere quickly. Instead we’re going to be appreciating our inherent qualities. In addition, these appreciations are going to be quiet ones. Yes, we’re going to say them in the mirror or in our minds. I don’t advise walking around telling people how creative, magnificent, and powerful you are. While all true, they may get a little scared! LOL

Either sometime in the morning or whenever you’re feeling like you need a reminder pick 3 items on this list. Sit with the thought that you ARE this quality. It will be very hard to do at first and you may not even be able to get it out of your mouth. It took me a long time before I could say, “I am and have always been Precious”.

Just like it took a long time for me to feel comfortable saying, “I’m not good enough” it’s going to take some time to remind us of our truth. We have to start though and over time this will get easier and I promise, your life will change. So take 3 items (pick easy ones at first) and say to yourself, “I am and have always been…”

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I want you to look at this list daily and do your best to memorize these qualities. THIS IS YOUR TRUTH! Not the crap you heard growing up and not the crap you hear today. It’s going to be really hard to appreciate these qualities about yourself. You’re not going to want to do this but we need to remember what is true!

It all starts with “I am and have always been…”

Be careful to acknowledge that we’re not talking about feelings here. You don’t even have to agree that you are and have always been valuable. But the fact that you are valuable isn’t dependent upon you believing in it, you already are.

We already know what life is like thinking we’re something other than our inherent qualities. We already know what it feels like to not be good enough, to be ugly and stupid, and not lovable, and less than. Isn’t it time we live the life we know deep down inside we deserve? Isn’t it time we tell the people that have been lying to us that they’re wrong!?

The change starts with you. It starts right here with me and with you. Responding to life on the basis of our Authentic Self, our Inherent Nature is our heaven on earth. Don’t wait any longer. You’ve spent enough time living a life in alignment with someone else’s lies. It’s time for you to be the best expression of yourself and what better time than now!

With Gratitude and Appreciation,

Josh_Sig

 

 

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Feb 042013
 

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I’ve always heard people talk about writing down their “intentions” or their “dreams/goals” in order for them to come true. Something about the act of physically writing them down is supposed to do something.

I always met that with speculation, as if writing something down has some magical power in it.

Towards the beginning of December 2012 I decided to give my 2013 some thought. A New Year brings new action so I figured instead of just keeping these things in my head I’d write them down. What could hurt, right?

I made a list in Evernote (a wonderful app if you haven’t tried it) of all the things I wanted manifested in 2013. I wrote down things I wanted in different areas of my life such as Career, Health, Relationships, etc. I included learning to play the guitar, speaking publicly on the topic of self-awareness, and writing for a major site such as The Daily Love, among other things.

What was different this time was that I made sure that everything I wanted in 2013 aligned with my life mission. I really feel strongly that in order for us to receive what the Universe has to offer we have to first be in alignment with our Authentic (inherent) Nature. This explains why I didn’t get many of the materialistic things I wanted growing up. The newest electronic gadget nor a Ferrari are exactly aligned to our Authentic Nature. I wish they were! Instead those things are normally more aligned to our Ego and the Universe has no interest in serving our Ego.

I was having a discussion with a friend about guitars and mentioned a new one wasn’t in the budget for me right now. He happens to play in a band and owns quite a few guitars. He offered to loan me one so I could learn and back in December I taught myself how to play! I’ve only mastered Twinkle Twinkle but at least my kids can sing along!

On January 2nd of this year I got an invitation to guest post on The Daily Love! My first reaction was total shock and surprise as this was something I literally wrote down weeks before. The funny thing is, just moments after that shock I realized this all made sense. Not that I had written it down and it came true. Rather, when we align our intentions to our Authentic Self the Universe manifests that which you imagine and desire into reality.

This may sound crazy to some of you and I completely appreciate that. However, I would invite you to try this concept on for size. Give the following steps a try and see what happens for you!

1. Become aware of your Inherent Qualities such as creativity, passion, intelligence, compassion, etc. Tell yourself, “I am creative (passionate, intelligent, etc.)”

2. Express that which you are! Be the qualities which are inherently yours!

3. Align your desires with your Authentic Self. For example, having a desire to play an instrument is in alignment with your creativity or having a desire to start a Non-Profit is in alignment with your compassion!

4. If your actions are truly in alignment with your Authentic Nature that which you desire will come true.

An important and very hard thing to do through all this is to surrender to the outcome.

What!? You want me to spend all this time thinking about my true self, then align my desires to my inherent qualities all just to surrender to my outcome?

Yes, let your intentions guide you and surrender to the outcome. The reality is we never really know what our possibilities are. Flexibility (an inherent quality) is very important when it comes to manifesting our dreams. If your intention is to get your message out than focus on your intention and allow the rest to take form however, that might look.

So, I do believe that writing down our desires is very important. But from my experience it’s more than just the physical act of writing it down. It comes down to awareness of our own value as a human, whether or not our intentions are in alignment with that value, and ultimately getting out of our own way!

What desires and dreams do you have? What have you found works for you in manifesting them?

I would love for you to check out my recent post on The Daily Love! I’m hoping to become a regular contributor and I can’t do that without your support!

With Gratitude and Appreciation,

Josh_Sig

 

 

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