Feeling good is the expectation for all of us, isn’t it? After all, if someone asks you how you’re doing and you respond with anything other than “good” they’ll immediately jump down your throat asking, “what’s wrong!?”
We’re smothered with commercials, ads, and social media all telling us how we can and should feel good! Every day we look for things to make us feel good and I’m not even talking about alcohol or drugs! Getting that morning cup of Joe from Starbucks, eating that piece of candy after lunch, surfing Facebook, even gossiping!
I could write a whole post just on the things that we do to make ourselves feel good! God forbid we feel anything other than good! When we do it’s really short lived and half the time we don’t even acknowledge it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve responded with, “fine” or “good” or “ok” to the question, “how are you?”.
There’s a negative stigma around “feeling bad”, don’t you think? If you’re feeling bad something MUST be wrong with you and everyone and their brother must FIX you! When’s the last time you shared with someone that you were feeling sad, angry, upset, frustrated, or disappointed and they didn’t try and fix you or make you feel better?
How many times have you shared a sad story or experienced something that was painful to you only for the person your sharing with crack a joke? People cannot stand being around any other feeling than “happy” (good). We’re always searching for happiness, right?
That’s exactly why I want to share this with you today. There’s a secret about living a life of happiness. A secret about feeling good more often. That secret is poop! Okay, not the kind of poop my 4 or 5 year olds talk about. I’m talking about feeling poopy! You know? All those feelings we try and avoid!? Those are the feelings we need to feel.
The trick is that you can’t not feel some feelings and then fully feel other feelings. It just doesn’t work that way. This also means you no longer have to waste your time chasing happy! How tiring is it to always think you need to feel happy? You are a whole person with a vast array of feelings. Why should you be expected to only feel one thing all the time?
Of course you want to feel happy a lot and so do I! So what if we both decided to stop judging ourselves – to stop judging our feelings. And instead of doing things based on how we’re going to feel, we do things based on who we are!? It’s clear all too often that we mistake how we feel with who we are so let’s not do that anymore. Let’s instead do things because we are creative, intelligent, thoughtful, compassionate, silly, courageous, and enough! Then just let whatever feelings come up pass through.
After all chasing feelings is a tiring effort that just never has an end in sight. It’s akin to a dog chasing its tail and after a while that dog is just going to get dizzy!
So my challenge to you is to forget about “trying” to feel good all the time! Instead focus on who you are and allow yourself to become an expression of all those wonderful qualities. Once you allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel, including those poopy feelings, you’ll begin to notice something…
You’ll begin to notice that what you’ve been chasing all this time is right there in front of you. What you’ll see is that you don’t need to feel good to know how amazing you are. In fact, your whole world will open up! When we refuse to judge ourselves and allow our wholeness to be fully expressed we will be well aware that the goodness we’ve been looking to feel is actually the goodness that’s been in us all this time!
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